As Paul taught in Romans 7, just because we love Jesus and have been filled with Holy Spirit and have inherited Jesus’ spiritual DNA, a new identity in Christ, doesn’t mean all our temptations, struggles, disease, suffering, sinful behavior are instantly zapped and cease. We still continue to live in a fallen and broken world, we continue living with a fallen and broken body that is susceptible to fleshly lusts and desires, and the Enemy is still alive and well (Romans 7). But the good news in the midst of this journey is that Jesus has set us free from this “body of death” (Romans 7:24-25) and there is “now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus” (Romans 8:1). Our life in this world is an on-going process or journey or great adventure of pursuing GOD & His purposes for us . . . pursuing His purpose of why we are here, why He created us. I believe this life-long process and purpose is to grow in an intimate love relationship with GOD. As we continue on this journey of spiritual growth and maturation in our authentic love relationship with GOD we become more and more truly satisfied with GOD, our True Love and Lover. As John Piper puts it . . .”GOD is most glorified in us when we are most satisfied in Him.”
So my focus is NOT on any external sinful behavior, nor is my focus on external lusts, desires and temptations. My focus is on pursuing GOD and falling more in love with Him. John Elderedge describes this process and relationship well in his incredibly wonderfully titled book, “Sacred Romance.” This is what GOD desires for us and from us . . . to experience a “Sacred Romance” with Him. I absolutely love that concept.
GOD’s heart is broken when we allow anything in this life or this world to become our focus, our love or more important to us than our relationship with Him, regardless of what that “thing” might be (sex, food, materialism, other relationships, religion, etc.). Anything that we put before GOD becomes an idol. I think our sexuality, our sexual needs and our need for relationships with others have become idolatrous for most people. The book of Hosea is a good example of this. I believe this is truly the story of the entire Bible. The Bible could be titled, “Sacred Romance.”
I also believe that as we grow in an authentic intimate love relationship with GOD our desire for anything in this world diminishes, becomes less and not nearly as satisfying because being truly satisfied in the LORD is so overshadowing and all encompassing; nothing can compare (2 Corinthians 5:1-9; Philippians 3:4-21). So why would I want to settle for a lesser lover like homosexuality or any other worldly distraction?
A major mistake we have made in the Church is to focus on worldly issues and sinful behavior rather than focusing on growing in our relationship with the LORD. I believe a person can be truly born again and continue to battle with SSA just like truly born again people continue to battle with many other sinful issues like pride, gossip, anger, envy, jealousy, etc. I believe a person can be truly born again and also embrace a gay-identified lifestyle because they have been blinded by the Enemy, just as many born again believers have been blinded by the Enemy to many of their sinful behaviors and attitudes that they embrace. The entire Bible deals with this continuing battle that all people experience, including those who are in Christ Jesus.